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Krunk Fu
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How does a person who has been so close to another and care about them so deeply just write them out of their lives when they know it is a toxic relationship? Is it truly that difficult or am I just a co dependent pussy!

edit: decided to edit out some personal info. =)

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Embarrass yourself with an actual therapist. That you would prefer advice here versus your own therapist may be part of the problem.

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That would mean I would have to drive there AND pay $75.00 too! Meh!

I dont prefer online advice Rokkr, gah!

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I don't know where to begin. Maybe the part where he it sounds like he needs drugs to be around you?

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OK, then. Kick the fucker to the curb. You don't really need much more advice than that.

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Depressed people who feel cornered in life are (a) unbelievably able to lie to themselves to a degree where their existence is a cocoon of fantasy, (b) will lash out at anyone or anything threatening the integrity of their illusion, and (c) cannot and will not be helped unless they themselves take the honest initiative for change.

Any well meaning nudges on your part will be seen as an existentialist threat, and will cause a seemingly disproportionate backlash.

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Coin that was a really shitty thing to say, I know this is the internet but seriously, that was quite the asshole comment.

Thanks mudded, your post made a lot of sense.

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Why are you so off girl?

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Couldn't read it all. You answered your own questions.

Move on. Focus that time and energy on something useful.

You're welcome

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Olaf, any decent therapist would tell you that you hold the answers to your own questions, if you are honest with yourself. Why do you think you keep the guy around? What needs is he fulfilling and why? "Helping" doesn't really cut it. Make sandwiches for the homeless. Donate to charity. I am not saying you should tell us.

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quote:
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Coin that was a really shitty thing to say, I know this is the internet but seriously, that was quite the asshole comment.


I'm just forming an opinion from the information offered. You tell me why I'm wrong.

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I want to be around Coin w/drugs

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quote:
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I'm just forming an opinion from the information offered. You tell me why I'm wrong.


no point.

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quote:
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Olaf, any decent therapist would tell you that you hold the answers to your own questions, if you are honest with yourself. Why do you think you keep the guy around? What needs is he fulfilling and why?


I know, but I wont post it here. Sometimes though, hearing what you already know from someone else gives you that little nudge you need, you know?

alas, I realized posting something so serious here probably wasn't the best of ideas, ha! So ive now edited and to be honest, your post was helpful and you are very correct so thank you.

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quote:
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I want to be around Coin w/drugs


As long as they're his drugs, right?

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Hahaha. I think anyone who followed this thread from the beginning knows where Olaf's problems come from.

Hint: It's Olaf.

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....... wasn't it something about Olaf being off the drugs and offering sex for free these days ?

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Re: Asylum Counseling Sesh

quote:
Originally posted by Olaf
How does a person who has been so close to another and care about them so deeply just write them out of their lives when they know it is a toxic relationship? Is it truly that difficult or am I just a co dependent pussy!

edit: decided to edit out some personal info. =)



It is difficult and painful, but ultimately it has to be done. For your own sanity and self respect.

What would be the point of prolonging toxicity?

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Guys I keep doing something I know I shouldn't. Should I keep doing it?

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Like smoking?

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Rokkr I swear to god

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Just keeping things real.

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I don't bring it up.

I merely asked DRZ for a robot cigarette recommendation.

Now I'm Steven Dorff

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quote:
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alas, I realized posting something so serious here probably wasn't the best of ideas.


I don't know what you wrote, as you edited it, but, I personally wish there were more serious posts. It's something I miss from the earlier days of asylum.

Anyways, there are many intelligent people on here. Asking for input is not a bad thing and can at the very least give you that alternate perspective you may need. Just be sure you can stomach brutal criticism as well.

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It's not like the old days, Sabine. Much more dog eat wolverine eat possum.

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