Ok, so you people can see an example of my "game" this is the last message I sent a female that got a response and eventually a date, unfortunately not a second date though anyways, here ya go.
So when I was reading your about me, My eyes just skipped the part that says "I have a passion for animals" and just read it as "If I see one homeless, It comes home with me until I find another home.", Which conjured up images of you leading some homeless guy by the arm to your place. Which would be really funny, but now that I have made myself seem really weird, I have a question, Is that a bumble-bee mask? I am pretty nerdy, but I am having a hard time placing it?"
Clearly I need help in figuring out what to say in a first message, ladies?
You are a bit too random. I enjoy quirky and random but maybe one random joke per day? I mean you did get a date with her, thats getting somewhere right? Not every date will end with a second one, that part is tricky I guess.
You gotta also remember that, she's probably just as nervous as you or more, otherwise she won't be using OKcupid herself. And one thing you both do have in common is that you resorted to OKcupid to find potential matches.
If I were her, I might want to talk about why you are on said site and if you'd come across any interesting profiles / amusing profiles / or just plain weird profiles. I think this gives avenue for a light and funny conversation to form. Maybe share funny ones with each other?
My take. Because when I used to meet guys from irc and went on dates with them, we found it easy to chat about fellow chatters from our mutual chat channels - and that eventually eased us into other topics of conversations.
quote:Originally posted by jazebelle You gotta also remember that, she's probably just as nervous as you or more, otherwise she won't be using OKcupid herself. And one thing you both do have in common is that you resorted to OKcupid to find potential matches.
Amen, I should get that last sentence tattooed on my arm so I remember it.
My advice is to steer clear altogether. Dating sites offer nothing but desperados, elitist cunts and psychologically damaged burnouts.
I'm surprised you have been on as many dates as you have. In my experience I only met 3-4 woman who I'd even consider bothering to go on a date with. Your standards must be way looser than mine which is probably an age thing. One woman who received the (dubious) pleasure of my company let slip she was bi-polar and burnt her warts off back in the eighties. Another who seemed really nice and did anal turned out to be a total flake who stopped calling/answering for no apparent reason. One other almost-date was a girl who had the skalies (herpes) and I obviously couldn't risk her shedding on me.
The only plus side of those sites is I've made friends with a couple of pretty cool chicks who I realized weren't suitable for me, and vice versa, but who ended up being on my facebook friendslist. One is a madam and the other a raw vegan hippy chick. Both are gorgeous but totally incompatible.