actually, with out hanging any prejudice to the word, he would be considered homosexual or gay by the definition. or atleast the activity would be. It appears they have broadened the definition from being attracted sexually to the same sex, to also just engaging in sexual activity with the same sex.
I just looked it up and thats why I think the definition has been broadened, which blows my whole, " I dont think a man who fucks a tranny is gay if the reason he fucked the tranny was because it looked like a woman." all to hell.
I do see what you guys are saying, that opportunity to spill your man seed can be just that, spilling your seed whether its in a dirty sock, a cantaloupe, a sheeps ass or some gay dudes mouth.
Im dating a guy who has received head from dudes on three different occasions, he is a pretty good looking and fit guy and I can see why the ghey bois would be falling all over themselves, and I admire that he was so honest about it when I know it was hard for him, however, I dont want to invest much in this relationship if he is gay and not come to terms with it or is with me because he thinks Im tom boyish enough to appeal to his favored sexual hungers and its easier to bring me around his family than some gay guy, just so in a year or two he decides he would rather pursue that alternative life style. Im getting old and junk. He does comment on how feminine and sexy he finds me, and he is always ready to go (fuck me) Im just a little paranoid I guess and guys who are hiding their true sexuality are usually great actors and can lie fantastically and continually for long periods of time. Im not in the mood for another thespian.
If a guy who is the roommate of a guy that glanced at another guy who grooms the dog of a chick that lives with a guy that thought he saw an old high school friend that might think "Gay Eye fo the Straight Guy" to be a cool show, I'd kill him. For god.
my honest, not fucking with you because it's you posting, advice is... if it happened once, it's just something that happened, a heat of the moment/opportunity thing. if it happened twice, then maybe he just happened to be in the right place again. but three times says he's actively seeking it out. and if he's as good looking as you think he is, he shouldn't be that hard up to find a loose pretty girl who'd do it for him just as easily as a guy.
no matter what he's telling you, he likes it, and probably for more than the idea of sexual power. even if that is the case, that'd spell out some deep shit that maybe you don't want to be around your kids anyway. *shrugs* you know the situation better than we do, just going on what you posted.
I think that you shouldn't read too much into all this,forbes,cause it's like....he could have lied to you.
He was straight honest about it all. But then there's the "What if you fall for him and one day you catch him botty bopping your brother or some shit?"
I say life's full of up's and down's. Life is too short NOT to give it a whirl.
The correct answer: Drop the putznosher like a bad habit and get yourself a real man. Otherwise, what grief doesn't devour of you, AIDS eventually will. And then you will be saying to yourself, "Ya know? I was on this forum that I used to call home before my vagina prolapsed in a goatseque sort of way leaving it dragging on the floor behind me like a scarlet sea cucumber, and I remember this brialliant and dashingly handsome fellow who also frequented that forum said to me, his left eyebrow lifted in a way that made my juices flow, 'Drop the putznosher like a bad habit and get yourself a real man. Otherwise, what grief doesn't devour of you, AIDS eventually will. And then you will be saying to yourself, 'Ya know? I was on this forum that I used to call home before my vagina prolapsed in a goatseque sort of way leaving it dragging on the floor behind me like a scarlet sea cucumber.'
quote:Originally posted by morgana if it happened once, it's just something that happened, a heat of the moment/opportunity thing. if it happened twice, then maybe he just happened to be in the right place again. but three times says he's actively seeking it out. and if he's as good looking as you think he is, he shouldn't be that hard up to find a loose pretty girl who'd do it for him just as easily as a guy.
That's so far from the truth it's not even funny.
You might be right about it being an issue in their relationship, but you missed the reasons by a few thousand miles.
quote:Originally posted by Trenchant_Troll Ok, that smacked of insight into your lurid and Paulian world.
I'd be lying if I said I don't speak from a little personal experience.
I bet you'd be amazed by the amount of people who've had homosexual experiences. Everybody's got issues; everybody's got shit in their past. I mean, phorbs, you were a stripper for chrissakes; from my personal experience, I'd be a helluva lot less likely to date an ex-stripper than an ex-bi-curious chick. And, I'm guessing that you haven't been seeing him long; on the list of "Shit That Could Go Wrong In This Relationship", "Him Turning Gay Sometime After Our Tenth Wedding Anniversary" probably isn't very high on the list. There's a whole host of other shit that'll go wrong well before that. "Me Freaking Out About His Past Sexual Exploits and Sabotaging The Relationship Or Driving Him Away" is probably more likely by a magnitude of some hundred. I guess it's a remote possibility, the scenario you talk about. But there's a hundred more plausible ones too. At some point, you just have to live a little. No need to be reckless, but no need to be overly paranoid either.
There's a potential relationship-killer inside every person you'll ever meet, period. Usually a lot more than one. You either learn to deal with that in people, or you don't.
If he wanted to be gay, he could surely just go off and be gay. But he's not, he's wanting to be with you. That's the real bottom line.
If he's not attracted to men, he's not queer. If he's okay with havin a guy suck his dick, and even enjoys it, then he's got fewer hangups about sex than most guys and is likely just a horny fucker. Enjoy that part.
probably half the guys I've been with could be designated as straight. They may have had queer sex with me, but I doubt many of em lie awake at night fantasizing about my naked body hovering over them. There are a few of them who I'd consider bisexual, but all of that is rather meaningless to me anyway. Never forget the Mugtoe Sexuality Spectrum and the fact that this is, in fact, a rather fluid circumstance in most people's lives, even if they generally tend to stay on one end or the other.